Young and In Love: Q+A with Kristen Baker

I would like to introduce you all to Kristen Baker. She's a hairstylist, yogi, super-mom in the making, and just the nicest person you'll ever meet. I have the pleasure of knowing her and her husband Nick personally, and they are some of the most wonderful people to be around. They're the kind of people whose love you can feel when you're around them. It's awesome.

Kristen and Nick met way back in high school and have had many ups and downs throughout their relationship. From fighting through Nick's battle with cancer, to Kristen launching her own business, and the ultimate game changer of bringing a baby into the world - they have always met their challenges with love at the forefront.

Here's a bit of Kristen's story in her words:

  1. Tell us about your journey to motherhood. How old were you when you had your first child?
I became a mother at age 26 but was always one deep in my heart. My mother was a stay at home mom, and I always knew that I wanted to have children and be a homemaker. 
  1. How did your family and friends react to the news of your pregnancy?
My family and friends were all quite excited that Nick and I were pregnant. Our immediate families especially, because not only is Eloise the first grandchild on both sides, but because Nick and I had anticipated it being much harder to get pregnant. Nick was diagnosed with testicular cancer at age 21 and had to have surgery and radiation therapy. We had been told by a reproductive specialist that we might have a hard time conceiving naturally. 

     3.      Tell us a little about your love story. How have you and Nick evolved since becoming parents? 

Nick and I have grown together as a couple for 9 years, and we are certainly very different people now than we were when we first met in high school. We have overcome many different challenges together including Nick's cancer, planning a wedding (it's harder than you think), Nick's school, me building my business, emotional and financial ups and downs, and your regular stupid little fights about absolutely nothing important. 

I think the biggest change for Nick and I as a couple definitely came right after I got pregnant. I have a pretty misunderstood psychological anxiety condition that took over during my pregnancy, and it instantly shifted our usual rolls, and put a lot of pressure on Nick. It also forced me to deal with something I've had lingering all my life and gave poor Nicholas a major lesson in patience. It made him understand me on a much deeper level, and it made me fall even more in love with him as my soul mate, partner, lover and best friend. 

Since Eloise was born we've definitely had our 3 a.m. delirious sleep fights, but communication is key and love seals the deal. She's made our family even more of a family. 
  1. What’s the balance like between work and motherhood right now?
Eloise to me is the most important thing, so work definitely takes a backseat to her needs. It's been a slow transition for me though because I had to start thinking that way even when I was pregnant. Going back to work after she was born was something that I didn't really plan on doing but needed to happen financially. I am very lucky that I am an independent hairdresser and can make my own schedule...and that my clients put up with me changing my hours and days all the time. 
  1. What has been the most challenging part of parenthood so far?
There have definitely been a few challenges for me since becoming a parent. For me the concept of vulnerability is new and challenging. I am a very particular person, and I am learning to give up control over things slowly but surely. When I say "things," I mean everything. Loving someone with so much of your being makes you feel very out of control and vulnerable. It requires a lot of trust and faith. This is still a learning process for me and will be for a long time. 
  1. How has motherhood changed you?
Motherhood has changed me in so many different ways. Aside from my overall focus completely shifting I feel like I have become more compassionate and caring. It's funny that I say that though, because in my business I have become less patient and more strict, which used to be the exact opposite. 

I suppose I know now how I'd like to spend my time and who it'd like to spend it with, and I'm happy that I don't have to pretend to want to be a successful business women anymore. Being pregnant made me have to learn to say no sometimes and that's okay. I have a big heart and I feel like I know now who I'd like to give that heart to. 
  1. What are your aspirations right now? How have they changed since becoming a mother?
I've always wanted to be a mother and have a family. I think my biggest aspiration is to become super mom and be in charge of running the house. This, for me, will mean overcoming a lot of my anxieties so that my family can have the best mommy they can have. I want to be the mom that makes the laundry smell perfect and has dinner on the table for papa and has time to crochet blankets. Can't wait! 
  1. What do you most love about your life right now?
I love how in love I am. I love seeing the little bits of Nick in Eloise. Our love has created the most beautiful little...our little. I am truly blessed!

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